Monthly Archive for August, 2010

One Fish, Two Fish

“Poetry is a deal of joy and pain and wonder, with a dash of the dictionary.”-Kahil Gibran

I went to a poetry reading tonight. I learned a few things.

I don’t even like poetry, but shockingly, some people who read at poetry readings are really good. This girl wrote a dirty poem about cheese that rocked my socks.

Most people who read at poetry readings take themselves entirely too seriously.

Men who don’t get laid who read at poetry readings (i.e. all of them) try to rhyme “desire” with “fire” all too often. You’d have poetry about sex if you were actually having it.


Sense This Makes Equals Zero

“There is no opinion so absurd that a preacher would not express it” -Bernie Katz

Sam Schulman wrote an op-ed for the Christian Science Monitor in which he criticizes the recent Prop 8 ruling in California.

Schulman claims that marriage isn’t about two people who love each other. Instead:

“Marriage is not about couples or lovers – it’s about the physical and moral integrity of women. When a woman’s sexuality is involved, human communities must deal with a malign force that an individual woman and her family cannot control or protect.”

So, I’m supposed to get married (to a man) because that man will protect my…sexuality? I find that somewhat troubling since, as a woman, I’m more likely to be assaulted by my husband than by a stranger. If, as a society, we are relying on husbands to protect the “physical and moral integrity of women,” then we’re really being let down.

He goes on to say:

“Modern marriage is only the least worst version of marriage that has emerged from all this – but it is still necessary for women. What protects women, ultimately, is that marriage laws and customs confer upon her independence something extra – dignity, protection, sacredness – that others must respect. And if this quality can be bestowed upon anyone, even those not in intersexual relationships – it reduces, even dissolves its force.”

If marriage is supposed to be about protecting me, I’m marrying my 80 pound  half Rottweiler, half pit bull. He’s a heterosexual male, so Schulman ought to be pleased.


Parenting

“There may be some doubt as to who are the best people to have children, but there can be no doubt that parents are the worst.” -Anonymous

I don’t have kids. I don’t want kids. I don’t spend a lot of time around kids. That being said, I have very strong opinions about them. Mostly, I don’t like them. Now, I’m not one to comment on anyone’s parenting abilities. From my limited experience, having kids is tough.

I spent the weekend with a family that has kids. Really, really great kids actually. The kids have really, really great parents.

The parents are atheists. (Well, an atheist and an agnostic.) After seeing a picture in a magazine about a manger scene, one of the kids mentioned she wanted one. Her (religious) grandmother explained that it was really important because that was the son of God, etc. Later, her parents took her aside and explained that not everyone believes in God, that they don’t don’t believe in God, but that Nana does.

Could you imagine the Duggars telling their kids that?


More On Gentrification

“The metamorphosis of Linux from a free, hobbyist software environment to a major revenue-producing operating system is occurring with the same surety and swiftness of a neighborhood undergoing gentrification.” -Laura DiDio

I mentioned earlier that my neighborhood is in the midst of gentrification.  Whenever things change, for any reason, it causes controversy.   In DC, the overall black population is declining, while the total population is expanding, and that has some concerned that DC will soon no longer be the “Chocolate City.” (Editor’s note: Baltimore, however, will still be called “Brown Town”.)

Natalie Hopkinson, staff reporter for the Washington Post, wrote a piece back in 2001 about how she and her family weren’t going to “let DC lose its flavor.”  The title of the piece (I Won’t Let DC Lose Its Flavor) is condescending.  But there is more than that.

The author discusses how she doesn’t want DC to lose another black family to the suburbs and she’s helping to keep DC black by choosing to live in a neighborhood (mine) which is in the process of being gentrified. Respectably, she doesn’t want to be another middle class black family who moves to the ‘burbs instead of staying to help to improve an ailing (and mostly black) neighborhood.  However, she seems to forget that gentrification has much less to do with the colors black and white and much more to do with the color green.

Look, if you’re middle class and you move to a poorer neighborhood, you’re gentrifying. A black family’s money raises property values as much as a white family’s does. Gentrification has a lot less to do with race and a lot more to do with socioeconomic status.  The face of gentrification is white because whites typically have more resources than blacks.  Increasing the cost of living is going to put out blacks (who typically have fewer resources), regardless of the face behind the increase.


Victim Blaming?

“To err is human, to blame the next guy even more so.”

I work a few nights a week at a local bodega and while working on Wednesday night, a girl came into the store only to leave and discover her bike had been stolen.  The girl hadn’t locked her bike to anything, just locked the wheels, and it appeared that someone came along on another bike, picked hers up, dumped there own, and left.

Bike theft where I live is pretty common. My bike was stolen a few months ago off of my back porch.  Everyone I know has a bike theft story.

When discussing this incident with other store customers, the consensus seemed to be that the girl should have locked her bike to something. I found myself agreeing. I’ve never heard of a bike being stolen from outside of the store.  This incident took place during daylight, at maybe 6:30PM, in a high traffic area.

Is this victim blaming? Is this the same thing that I chastised others for doing?

I realize bike theft and rape aren’t equatable. I also realize that there is a very real relationship between an unlocked bike and bike theft that doesn’t exist for, say, a short skirt and rape. But saying that the girl “shouldn’t have left her bike unlocked” seems eerily similar to the girl “shouldn’t have drank so much.”




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