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So, I Guess I Am Not A Woman Either?

I’ve been seeing this tripe floating around on Facebook over the last few days.

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Let’s break this down.

“I’ve heard you say you “identify as a woman”. But I find that highly unlikely and insulting.”

I don’t think it’s unlikely that Caitlyn Jenner identifies herself as a woman, since she’s said as much actually herself. Which therefore makes it true.

“You see, Mr. Jenner”

Ms. Jenner.

“there is more to being a woman than beautiful gowns and fake boobs. There is more to being a woman than makeup and pretty hair.”

We can definitely agree on that!

“This is something we mothers begin teaching our young daughters at an early age.”

So what about women who grow up without mothers? Forget the notion that two men can adopt or have a surrogate, because I get the feeling you may be opposed to that too. But what about the women whose mothers’ died? Or left? Are they also not women?

“As a woman of nearly 50 years, I can tell you what it is truly like to be a woman. You may be able to understand or even empathize, but you are definitely NOT able to “identify”. For instance, you will never know what it is like to wake up every 28 days with searing stomach pain so bad it doubles you over, yet still trot off to work or school as though everything is fine.”

Neither can I. I’ve hardly ever had menstrual cramps actually.

“You will never know what it is like to have your car break down on the side of the road and when a couple men stop to help your prayer is that their intentions are good because there is no way on earth you have the ability to physically hang let alone overpower them.”

Me either.

“You have no idea what it is like to long to have a child only to have your third miscarriage, yet still manage to be able to share in the joy of all the other young mothers in your life. You will never know what it’s like to get pregnant, gain 40 lbs (1/3 your total body weight), hurl all morning long for 4 months straight, yet still care for your other two toddlers, and not drive your husband to the brink. You will never know what it is like to give birth to a 10 lb. baby boy with absolutely no medication!!!”

As a childless person, me either.

“You will never know what it is like at the age of 50 to be walking down the streets of Phoenix and popping in the Dairy Queen for a cool refreshing treat only to be gripped at that moment with your fourth hot flash of the day.”

As someone who is 30, me either.

And then there is a bunch more dribble that you can go read for yourself if you want.As a woman, I don’t want what makes me a woman to be limited to making babies and being vulnerable to men. Which is literally all her list consists of.


Musical Chairs

Much has been said, online and elsewhere, about the New York Magazine cover story featuring the Cosby rape victims.* It’s an amazing story and a truly stunning visual image.

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The magazine left an empty chair to represent all of the victims who are unwilling or unable to speak out. The Twitter hashtag #TheEmptyChair took off in response, with other sexual assault victims posting their own stories of unreported sexual assaults.

Society doesn’t support rape victims. Their stories are repeatedly questioned and undermined, in a way that victims of other crimes do not face. (Watch: If A Robbery Report Was Treated Like A Rape Report) Victims are often not believed, even by their own family and friends. They are stigmatized for life (Google “Would you date a rape victim?” and see how horrible it can be.)

In other words, it is totally understandable why sexual assault is a grossly underreported crime.

But I guess not to some people.

In response to the Cosby piece, I have seen so many responses shaming victims who didn’t report their crimes at all or reported them much later (as with the Cosby victims.) “Why didn’t you go to the police?” they ask. Then sometimes blaming the victim for their assailant’s future attacks. “Well if you had reported this person, they couldn’t have raped someone else,” they say. As if rape is the fault of anyone but the rapist.

You wanna know why people don’t report their sexual assaults? It’s because people like that work for the police and the hospitals and the prosecutor and are family members and friends and colleagues. Victims know they will be treated terribly by the system and by society. If you’re one of those people wondering why victims don’t report, you are the reason.

 

*I am calling them victims and not alleged victims because I believe them. It’s my blog and I’ll set whatever standard I want.




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