Internet Drag

“We are what we pretend to be, but we better be very careful what we pretend.” -Kurt Vonnegut

Can someone explain to me why some older men pretend to be young, attractive women on the internet? No, I’m not talking about some creepy dateline show where an unattractive, fifty year old, potbellied man is pretending to be a 13 year old girl name Susie in an internet chatroom so he can lure some real 13 year old girl to his house for milk and cookies.

William Dafoe I’m talking about intelligent men who feel the need to set up online personalities as younger, attractive womenand then blog about how they experience the world. There was the Gay Girl In Damascus who turned out to be neither gay, nor a girl, nor in Damascus. There was Lez Get Real who was neither a lesbian nor real. Now, it’s Great Satan’s Girlfriend, who may be Satan’s girlfriend but wasn’t the attractive 21 year old they were pretending to be.

First, there’s the creep factor of an older man pretending to be a younger girl. I can’t put my finger on exactly why this bothers me, but it does.

Secondly, there’s a major problem with the photos used. Gay Girl In Damascus used real photos of a Croatian woman stolen from a Flickr account. Great Satan used photos of god (or satan) only knows who on the blog. My guess is that a lot of those young women are unaware their photos are being used to perpetrate a hoax.

Thirdly, when people do shit like this it makes it much more difficult for actual women or actual lesbians to spread their own message. How many people are satisfied that it wasn’t an attractive young woman writing intelligently about foreign policy? How many negative stereotypes does this reinforce? How many other LGBT writers, hiding behind pseudonyms for completely valid reasons, will be doubted?

Finally, what the fuck, dudes? What is the draw or desire to pretend to be a young, attractive woman? Or any type of woman? Seriously, knock it off.