“When other little girls wanted to be ballet dancers I kind of wanted to be a vampire.” -Angelina Jolie
This shit is ridiculous.
The husband was laid off. Not fired. Not quit. And now the wife is saying
“It’s the respect. I wish I could say something different, but I’ve lost so much respect for him. And I think the dynamics with a man and a woman is a woman has to respect her husband. And if she doesn’t, that relationship just goes away.”
Wow. 2010 much? (Sorry, that was actually written in 2009. Point still stands.)
The husband isn’t helping much, saying
“I think it is in every man’s DNA to be the breadwinner. It’s very humbling for me. It changes the dynamic of our relationship immensely. There is a wedge that has appeared. I feel the anger. I feel the tension. This house is not as joyous as it should be.”
It’s not so much the traditional gender role situation that bothers me. It’s the inability of these two people to value themselves outside of that traditional gender role.
What the fuck would have happened, wife, if you never found someone to marry? Or, husband, if you never found a walking vagina to shoot out your offspring?
I just don’t get this expectation of dependence. This isn’t 1954. You are perfectly capable of getting a job and supporting your damn self. And you should be able to do that.
That’s not to say I don’t understand traditional gender roles or that I expect that every woman should have a career. I get that when you couple up, you have to start considering the “we” and not just the “me.” But that’s after you’ve found a partner. You can’t EXPECT to find someone to marry who will take care of you.
Well apparently you can. But you shouldn’t.